My Husband, my youngest daughter and I went to my sister in law's to celebrate her birthday tonight. She is a beautiful lady, inside and outward. You can tell she takes care of herself. She got great skin, and takes pride in everything she does. Truly a woman of good taste.
While sitting around the table talking, I announced that I had started writing a blog entitled "My Age, Not Your Business." Of course some thought this was an interesting subject, some had no response, probably just because. My cousin said "You guys look fabulous. I would tell the world my age if I were you." Great compliment.... She's younger than I am and maybe don't mind telling age. That is okay for her. My sister in law has no problem telling her age either. It's just me with the zipped lip about the age thing. You know...my age...my business :) Maybe one day when I am 80 and hopefully looking 60 I may tell too. Who knows?
In my last blog I talked about starting with good skin. It is the foundation of staying beautiful. Most beauty books will tell you that when you get in your forties you should start using night creams and serums because as you get older, you tend to lose elasticity, and you become dryer due to lack of collagen. However, I truly believe that early preventive measures are the best bet for great skin. I started taking care of my skin at age fifteen. But I think if a woman at least starts serious skin care even as early as her twenties or thirties, she will have less regrets in her fifties and sixties. She can avoid the dryness which can lead to wrinkles so moisturizing should be a priority. Even if you have oily skin, there is an oil free moisturizer for your skin type.
When I wear makeup, and I like to wear a mineral makeup, and I also use a primer. I wear less makeup, it last all day and does not clog my pores.
My neighbor is retired and I believe she told me she is about 72 years old. I could not believe it because she looks so terrific. She keeps her hair cut in a cute and current pixie hair style. Her hair is snow white and gorgeous but her face is smooth and almost wrinkle free. Certainly not the face of a 72 year old. She walks every morning around 6am. I see her working in her yard on a regular basis. She stays active. Sometimes I see her outside playing ball with her grandchildren. She truly enjoys her life. That is what I call true beauty. She eats right, gets exercise, drinks lots of water and takes care of her skin. Comparatively, I see other women younger than this woman, some in their 60's who could easily pass for late 70's. I am sure they probably don't even own a jar of anything that resembles a cream. If they walked, it is probably from the car to the pharmacy counter to pick up a prescription.
What does true beauty have to do with all this? EVERYTHING! Did you know that if you just eat right, exercise, drink water, you can literally flush toxins from your body which will lead to good skin? Its all relative. Lets get moving. Just because you're over 40 doesn't mean you have to look it, doesn't mean you have to feel it, and certainly doesn't mean that the world has to know it. See how I brought that subject right back to 'my age, my business?" :)
Until next time. Have a fabulous day.
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Friday, April 10, 2009
Becoming An Aging Female Is a Matter of Birth
Becoming An Aging Female Is a Matter of Birth.....HOWEVER, being a gorgeous, ageless woman is a matter of choice. That is my line and I am sticking with it. When I was 23, I was taking an interior design class and my instructor was 37. She was absolutely gorgeous. At 23 I saw 37 as mature, older, maybe even ancient. I truly admired the way she dressed, and the way she wore her hair and makeup. She also had great skin. When she told us she was 37, I remember saying, "Wow! I hope I look that good when I get that old". I am sure she was probably thinking 'what is old about 37?' Of course 37 is not old to anyone unless you are under 30 :)
I have always been intrigued with the care of good skin. Of course I love makeup. But what I love more is great skin. One of the first steps in taking care your gorgeous self is to start taking care of your skin if you have not already. Your face is the first thing that you see in the morning, so spend some time taking care of it. It is the first thing that people see as well. Even if you don't wear makeup to cover the imperfections, you really should be determined that you should take care of the 'skin you're in'. I don't even mean just your facial skin either. You should take care of the whole body. Soft, smooth skin is wonderful. If you don't have it, you must experience it. Pay attention to your feet, your hands, your knees and elbows.
Stand in front of the mirror and look, really look at yourself. Do you see or feel any rough spots on your face or body. Well they have to go! NOW! This means you first have to cleanse your face or body with appropriate cleanser or shower gels or creams, then EXFOLIATE. If you don't know what that means, you can email me later. After you exfoliate, then you must tone and moisturize. Now don't even tell me that you don't have time for all of that. You need to just take time. You owe it to yourself. Just get up a little earlier. Make a date with yourself.
You might ask what products to use. I am not endorsing any specific products at this time. Over the years I have actually used products right out of my kitchen to smooth my knees and elbows, give myself facials, condition my hair, soften my feet, soak my body, the list goes on. However, my point is you have to start now thinking of yourself as ageless, gorgeous, and beautiful, because somewhere under the dry skin, if that is you, the oily skin if that is you, the 'I don't know what to do with my hair, my skin, my body, myself', if that is you, is a gorgeous woman who wants to emerge. Please let her out.
Until next time. Have a fabulous Day!
I have always been intrigued with the care of good skin. Of course I love makeup. But what I love more is great skin. One of the first steps in taking care your gorgeous self is to start taking care of your skin if you have not already. Your face is the first thing that you see in the morning, so spend some time taking care of it. It is the first thing that people see as well. Even if you don't wear makeup to cover the imperfections, you really should be determined that you should take care of the 'skin you're in'. I don't even mean just your facial skin either. You should take care of the whole body. Soft, smooth skin is wonderful. If you don't have it, you must experience it. Pay attention to your feet, your hands, your knees and elbows.
Stand in front of the mirror and look, really look at yourself. Do you see or feel any rough spots on your face or body. Well they have to go! NOW! This means you first have to cleanse your face or body with appropriate cleanser or shower gels or creams, then EXFOLIATE. If you don't know what that means, you can email me later. After you exfoliate, then you must tone and moisturize. Now don't even tell me that you don't have time for all of that. You need to just take time. You owe it to yourself. Just get up a little earlier. Make a date with yourself.
You might ask what products to use. I am not endorsing any specific products at this time. Over the years I have actually used products right out of my kitchen to smooth my knees and elbows, give myself facials, condition my hair, soften my feet, soak my body, the list goes on. However, my point is you have to start now thinking of yourself as ageless, gorgeous, and beautiful, because somewhere under the dry skin, if that is you, the oily skin if that is you, the 'I don't know what to do with my hair, my skin, my body, myself', if that is you, is a gorgeous woman who wants to emerge. Please let her out.
Until next time. Have a fabulous Day!
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
My Age: Not Your Business
Hi all,
This is my first post. I have never blogged about anything but let me start by talking about something that has always irritated me.
I have six sisters and one brother and I am the oldest of the eight of us. I have two adult daughters and two granddaughters. I manage a salon where I have worked for almost six years. Over the years my staff has tried to guess my age or try to find our something about me so that can just tell them. Maybe to other people, it's no big deal. However, I have decided that my age is nobody's business but my own.
People always ask my age and I tell them in a playful way, "If I tell you, I have to kill you." I say the same about my recipes. Some things are just sacred, you know. Like some people ask me, "Is that your real hair?" I could ask them, "Are those your real teeth? Are those your real breasts?" I don't, but I could. I simply say sometimes, "If I say yes or no, would you like me more or less? Just curious. Is it really important for you to know? I mean, if it is, I will tell you." Of course by now they are embarrassed that they asked. I mean, really, what does it matter if a woman looks good...just say "You really look nice today." That should be sufficient.
For years, I didn't even think about my age...I just knew I had birthdays. I was too busy running my salon, taking care of my children and living my life. I remember one day having a conversation with someone who asked me how old I was. I immediately said 32...and I meant it. It had been so long since I had acknowledged my age , it just came out of my mouth. I continued to talk and in the middle of my sentence, I realized that I had lied...not intentionally but just the same I had lied. At the time, I was 39. I stopped talking, took a deep breath and realized that I was not 32. Out loud I said, "No...I am not 32, I am 39. I can't believe that seven years has happened to me and I have not noticed." That was a scary moment for me. That age thing is not what I want to address. I also realized that that age thing is not really important.
However, no matter how good you look, people may judge you because of your age. Example: A client of mine who looks about 27, but is really 41 told me that she had been approached by some women in a class she was taking. They had networked for about a month and had made some very important strides. She invited them to her home for lunch one day and they were so amazed that a 27 year old had such a beautiful home. That was when she told the ladies that she was actually 41. The winds changed after the luncheon and two of the young ladies decided to drop out of the networking group because they felt that they had nothing in common with my client. It seemed once the age was revealed, it became a problem. Of course, in this scenario, they both seemed like idiots to me. My friend was prepared to expand her business and had high hopes of them joining her. Of course it was good that true colors emerged at the right time to save her heartache in the future. There are other examples where good employees are passed over because of their age. I know of a situation where the promotion was given to the 26 year old who had worked in the company for 3 months instead of the 59 year old who had been in charge of the company for 2 years while the owner was out of the country. I was a blow to her for sure. By the way, she did not look 59 or dress the part. It is what it is.
Of course it is what it is. It is going to happen. Just like the sun rises in the morning and sets in the evening, age happens. Some people notice, some people don't. I decided I would be one to make a conscious effort not to notice.
My sister had her __th birthday recently (aha! you thought I would slip and tell, didn't you?) If I tell you her age, you can guess mine...NOT! She was going around telling everyone how proud she was of her age because she knew she looked good for her age, yada, yada, yada. That is fine for her, but then she goes on to say, "Now my sister B is older than me." Now what does my age have to do with her conversation? Just leave me out of it thank you very much. My sister loves me and would never hurt me. But I think she knows now that i am serious about her keeping me out of the age conversation.
In the meantime, I intend to take care of myself as the aging process takes place. Thank God in my family, we've got great genes, but I have to meet those genes half way. I still have to do my part. I have to eat right, exercise, get enough sleep, drink lots of water and pamper myself. If i don't, who will?
What I don't understand is why do I see women, some younger, some older, just withering away? Why don't women take care of themselves? It's not just the married ones either. Some are married and some are single. The single are wondering why they have no one and the married are wondering why the husband don't pay them attention. We have lots to talk about in these future blogs, don't we? The way I see it is, with all of the tools and resources these days, no woman has to look unattractive. Like the commercial says, "I can show you how."
Well, I have blogged enough for the night. Got to get some rest 'cause it is late. Until the next time....
This is my first post. I have never blogged about anything but let me start by talking about something that has always irritated me.
I have six sisters and one brother and I am the oldest of the eight of us. I have two adult daughters and two granddaughters. I manage a salon where I have worked for almost six years. Over the years my staff has tried to guess my age or try to find our something about me so that can just tell them. Maybe to other people, it's no big deal. However, I have decided that my age is nobody's business but my own.
People always ask my age and I tell them in a playful way, "If I tell you, I have to kill you." I say the same about my recipes. Some things are just sacred, you know. Like some people ask me, "Is that your real hair?" I could ask them, "Are those your real teeth? Are those your real breasts?" I don't, but I could. I simply say sometimes, "If I say yes or no, would you like me more or less? Just curious. Is it really important for you to know? I mean, if it is, I will tell you." Of course by now they are embarrassed that they asked. I mean, really, what does it matter if a woman looks good...just say "You really look nice today." That should be sufficient.
For years, I didn't even think about my age...I just knew I had birthdays. I was too busy running my salon, taking care of my children and living my life. I remember one day having a conversation with someone who asked me how old I was. I immediately said 32...and I meant it. It had been so long since I had acknowledged my age , it just came out of my mouth. I continued to talk and in the middle of my sentence, I realized that I had lied...not intentionally but just the same I had lied. At the time, I was 39. I stopped talking, took a deep breath and realized that I was not 32. Out loud I said, "No...I am not 32, I am 39. I can't believe that seven years has happened to me and I have not noticed." That was a scary moment for me. That age thing is not what I want to address. I also realized that that age thing is not really important.
However, no matter how good you look, people may judge you because of your age. Example: A client of mine who looks about 27, but is really 41 told me that she had been approached by some women in a class she was taking. They had networked for about a month and had made some very important strides. She invited them to her home for lunch one day and they were so amazed that a 27 year old had such a beautiful home. That was when she told the ladies that she was actually 41. The winds changed after the luncheon and two of the young ladies decided to drop out of the networking group because they felt that they had nothing in common with my client. It seemed once the age was revealed, it became a problem. Of course, in this scenario, they both seemed like idiots to me. My friend was prepared to expand her business and had high hopes of them joining her. Of course it was good that true colors emerged at the right time to save her heartache in the future. There are other examples where good employees are passed over because of their age. I know of a situation where the promotion was given to the 26 year old who had worked in the company for 3 months instead of the 59 year old who had been in charge of the company for 2 years while the owner was out of the country. I was a blow to her for sure. By the way, she did not look 59 or dress the part. It is what it is.
Of course it is what it is. It is going to happen. Just like the sun rises in the morning and sets in the evening, age happens. Some people notice, some people don't. I decided I would be one to make a conscious effort not to notice.
My sister had her __th birthday recently (aha! you thought I would slip and tell, didn't you?) If I tell you her age, you can guess mine...NOT! She was going around telling everyone how proud she was of her age because she knew she looked good for her age, yada, yada, yada. That is fine for her, but then she goes on to say, "Now my sister B is older than me." Now what does my age have to do with her conversation? Just leave me out of it thank you very much. My sister loves me and would never hurt me. But I think she knows now that i am serious about her keeping me out of the age conversation.
In the meantime, I intend to take care of myself as the aging process takes place. Thank God in my family, we've got great genes, but I have to meet those genes half way. I still have to do my part. I have to eat right, exercise, get enough sleep, drink lots of water and pamper myself. If i don't, who will?
What I don't understand is why do I see women, some younger, some older, just withering away? Why don't women take care of themselves? It's not just the married ones either. Some are married and some are single. The single are wondering why they have no one and the married are wondering why the husband don't pay them attention. We have lots to talk about in these future blogs, don't we? The way I see it is, with all of the tools and resources these days, no woman has to look unattractive. Like the commercial says, "I can show you how."
Well, I have blogged enough for the night. Got to get some rest 'cause it is late. Until the next time....
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